EP 118: Starting the New Year Off Right


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[00:00:00] Welcome to the 100% guilt-free self-care podcast with Tami. Hackbarth the podcast here to remind you that you matter to friends. I am so, so, so happy you're here. This. The recording is happening the last week of December, 2021, otherwise known as the longest year of probably everyone's life.

[00:00:28] Sophomore year of COVID has been super duper hard as we all probably feel. So today I want to offer you what I'm going to do for my new years to do list. First thing's first. I want to talk about when new year's actually happens and you're probably thinking, duh, it happens this weekend because it's new year's Eve it's December 31st.

[00:00:59] Well, I would like to offer you is to say, nah, I'm going to go ahead and rewrite that story. And here's why I. A number of years ago, decided that January would be a transition month for myself because when I didn't take January as a transition month, I spent all of December thinking about January, thus shortening my holiday season, thus making me grumpy.

[00:01:29] And a lot of times they end up. You know, getting that like winter cold or the flu or whatever. And I would spend all of January sick anyway. So I just decided to just roll with the nature of what's happening with me in January, which is I'm tired from the holidays. I am tired from winter and I just don't have a lot of energy in January.

[00:01:53] So, if you are somebody else, who's like, God, every January I feel like I'm gripping everything really tightly and I'm all in and I'm going at my new year's resolutions really hard in January. And then by like February 2nd year, like, what did I say? I was going to do this year and you forgotten and you've given up because January was kind of a bust.

[00:02:14] I'm here for you a hundred percent. So what I want to offer you is. Take all of January to set up your year. I like to think of the new year as when lunar new year happens. That's when I'll go ahead and begin my year and this year, it is very, very tidy on the calendar that. New year's Eve for the lunar new year is January 31st.

[00:02:38] Since a year of the tiger. I'm looking forward to 2022. You're the tiger. And I will a hundred percent be taking every week in January to do a workshop of all the personal practices that I do with you. If you would like to join them. You can check out my workshop schedule for the new years bundle, which is included in deferred maintenance immersion.

[00:03:05] So if you haven't already joined deferred maintenance immersion, you can, those workshops start on January 10th and they are every Monday in January. These are the practices that I do myself every year, while I'm transitioning to the new year. So, the second thing. Is I like to review the year before, so I'm going to take a time.

[00:03:28] This is one of the workshops I'm going to take the time to go back and look at all the things that I did that I loved. That made sense. I want to congratulate myself for job well done. And probably just as important. I want to take back a look at every activity, everything I said yes to. In the year and decide if I had to do this all over again, would I do it again?

[00:03:56] And if not, I want to make note to myself in my calendar somewhere that I did not like this thing, do not say yes, next time somebody asks you to do this thing. So review, congratulate and say goodbye to the things I don't want to take with me into the new. The next thing I'm going to do in January. And again, it's a workshop you're totally invited to come along is choose a word of the year.

[00:04:27] This is a very, very popular activity, choosing a word of the year. And for years I did a new year's day workshop and it morphed into a half day retreat and it morphed into a day long retreat and it was called that retreat was restoration, not resolutions because the idea is. It's January, it's cold.

[00:04:51] Everything is dormant in nature, and we are part of nature. We are, we're working towards the storm and see also but I always choose my word of the year in January. I also, when I was a teacher would do it for the school year. And that was because these were the years become this guidance. Principal of the year.

[00:05:09] So the one year I chose connection. And so when I was focused on connection that year, when people asked me to do stuff, I had to weigh like, Hmm, am I going to introvert and say no? Or am I going to figure out a way to make this happen? Because I really do want to be more connected with people. The year I chose.

[00:05:32] Don't take it personally. I know that is not one year, one word. However, that was a really pivotal year. The growth when I was like, I can learn not to take things personally, and I really did need a year of very, very, very structured practice with that. One year I chose fun. I did change it because.

[00:05:55] Let's be honest. Fun is hard for me as an Enneagram one. So what I did was I revised it because after a while I was like, what, what was I really trying to get to about choosing fun? And it turned out it wasn't so interested in fun. I was interested in being more light-hearted that year. So when I choose a word of the year, it helps me keep myself on track.

[00:06:19] Of how I want to feel that year, how I want to practice being in the world in that way, every January, I set myself up with yearly goals and I am wacky in this way. I only put things on my yearly goal list that are things I want to do. Like I'm not somebody who's going to be like, oh, I'm going to run a marathon.

[00:06:47] Cause I don't want to, I'm going to, I don't know what other common resolutions there are. I'm going to floss every day. I don't want to. So I'm only going to put things on my yearly goal list that I want to do. So one of the things that I put on my list for this year was use my cast iron skillet one time.

[00:07:06] And you might think, well, that is a really silly goal. Except for me, it wasn't, it was a process goal. I and I made the bar really low and we had to do at one time, but then there was all the prep that I had to use to do to the pan to be able to do it. And you know, what was great is not only did I meet that goal of using my cast iron skill at one time this year I blew it out of the water friends.

[00:07:32] I met that goal many, many times and it felt fantastic. Right. So I finally have learned how to set goals that I want to keep. And then I, I spend a year, you know, I really go through and like, I'm going to do 22 goals for the year 20, 22. Then during January, I'm going to take the goals and I'm going to break them down into, okay, this is a yearly goal.

[00:08:01] And then break the yearly goal down in. Seasonal goals or Quintiles or quarters, and then I'm gonna break it down into monthly goals. And then I'm gonna break it down into weekly goals. I'm going to break it down into daily goals and you see where I'm going with this is that I don't just make a list of things without figuring out the process to make them reality.

[00:08:23] And. You know, I've been doing this for a couple of years, not just with myself, but with my clients. And they're like, dang, this kind of goal setting makes sense because we're not just setting it and forgetting it. We're actually figuring out how we can create the space for the new thing. And then we bring in, which is my next thing, set up, loving accountability.

[00:08:46] We bring in loving accountability to make sure that we are being cheered on when we. Are making our goals. And when we aren't making our goals, we're like, what is getting in the way let's brainstorm lists. Let's figure it out. And we keep ourselves on track and keep each other on track. Something else to do in the new year.

[00:09:05] After you set your goals, after you reviewed and said bye to the year before, after you chosen your word, after you set up your accountability. It's a great practice to make a vision board. And if you've never made a vision board before, it's basically using visuals either digitally or analog, where you capture the thing that you want to bring into your life.

[00:09:32] And I will say when I first heard about vision boarding, I thought that sounds nuts, but. As I am wanting to do, when something sounds nuts to me, I'm like, I'm going to try it and make sure it doesn't work for me. So I did it. And every time we make a vision board by, you know, within a few years, I'm like, oh my God, that thing that I thought was so ridiculous, that that would be so out of reach for me is now my reality.

[00:09:59] So. Tons of resources to make all of these things come true. There's tons of resources on the internet. You could Google all of them. And these are the things that I'm doing at the beginning of every year. I invite you to do them. Same if you would like to do them with me, all of these things are included in deferred maintenance numbers.

[00:10:24] You can find out more about that year long program, which starts in the beginning of January, we're doing the workshops over at my website at www.tamihackbarth.com/deferred-maintenance, where you can find out all about dates and early enrollment and all that jazz there. And finally, the last thing that I would do every year is to be.

[00:10:53] Oh, a list of 12 life changing books that I want to read so that I make sure that even if I'm only reading one book a month, that I have chosen the books that are going to somehow impact me in a way that I'll think, wow, that was a really good use of my time. PS in deferred maintenance, we read 12 life-changing books per year as a group and have a private book club.

[00:11:17] So if you are interested in the. New year to do list items and workshops and life-changing books and ongoing, loving support, you can apply to become a member of deferred maintenance immersion. And I would absolutely love to have you in my coaching experience for the whole of 20, 22 happy new year friends.

[00:11:42] Okay. I am very much looking forward to seeing what junior year of COVID brings us. I hope it brings us some more peace than we've had recently. So until next week, remember that you matter to.

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